Eeny, meeny, miny, moe ...

Friends and clients of late have all expressed frustration over their inability to make a decision and act on it. Now, I’m not sure if it’s just the general uncertainty that 2020 has brutally delivered, or cosmic energies coming into play with the new moon in Virgo, but it does seem as though people are feeling restless and horribly indecisive.

Psychologists will tell you that indecision is often linked to anxiety over making the wrong decision and having to deal with the subsequent consequences. It may have underlying causes like depression, fatigue and feelings of helplessness that affect your perception and make it difficult to take action or see things clearly.

Personally, I’m in the throes of a Spring clean and de-cluttering exercise that has me in a tizz over what to discard and what to keep. Honestly, I admit I’m a hoarder of all things sentimental, from Grade 1 reports and works of art (my own and those of my kids), to useless items I have kept “just in case I need it one day” which includes cracked bowls that will never see the inside of an oven again but that voice in my head tells me it belonged to my mum so I need to hang onto it and find another purpose for it. I have a veritable collection of hardly-used gift bags, ribbons, bows and sheets of wrapping paper I have kept to reuse ... then promptly forgotten about them tucked away in some dark, dusty corner of a cupboard!

Even finding a topic for this blog post has caused me hours of sleepless nights and angst. I’ve just not been able to make a decision on a topic to write about – hence the long break since the last post!

So, true to form, when all else fails I turned to the cards for some clarity and direction on what topic to cover in this blog post.

I drew three cards ... the Two of Wands, the Two of Swords and the Seven of cups. If I were playing cards, this would be a winning hand! All three cards are about making decisions.

In the Two of Wands the card tells us that there are two paths we can take. We need to make a decision or choose between two options but it cautions us that the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. In the card we can see a man contemplating whether he should stay or go. He’s feeling restless and isn’t content with where he is in his life right now. He knows that he may have to leave something behind by making this decision, but the wand in his hand and the globe in his other indicate that there may be more to gain in the long term by moving forward. This card often comes up when there is a sudden departure, overseas travel or possible move overseas.

The Two indicates that this is in the early stage of the Wands cycle and the decision made now will impact on the long-term journey. It’s a positive card and it is comforting to know that whatever decision you make the outcome is positive, but you do need to take into account your long-term play which should help making the decision easier.

The Two of Swords shows us that we have two paths or options from which to choose, but being blindfolded we are not clear on which path to take. We are caught in the middle of the decision making and the card urges us to look for more information. Take off the blindfold and get clarity on the matter. Personally, when I get this card my focus is drawn to the water and moon in the background and I see it as a caution not to make a decision based on emotions, but to stay grounded and seek more clarity.

The Seven of Cups usually appears when we have too many options and are unable to choose one. It’s a case of being spoiled for choice and spending too much time and energy scrutinising all the options available. This card tells you to get your head out of the clouds, to push pause on the fantasising and daydreaming and to make a decision based on the information that is available, rather than the wishful thinking going on in your mind.

There are also practical ways to help you through the decision making process. Here are steps to keep in mind...

Know what you want.

If there are two options to choose from and neither option is what you really want, then maybe it's because they are not right for who you are, no matter how much sense they make on paper.

Don’t feel pressured.

When you have decided what you really want, then you have to ignore the voices around you telling you that you should want something else. Don’t let them pressure you into making a decision just because it may look and sound great. Take a step back and understand your reasons for making the decision you’ve made. If it is not because you really want it and it is going to make you happy and fulfilled, then deep down you know it’s not the right decision for you.

Action is better than inaction.

Don’t let your fear of choosing an option or making a decision leave you in a state of limbo. Sometimes taking action and actually doing something will ultimately benefit you even if it means that the choice you made was for short-term gain.

Practice, practice practice!

It may sound weird that you need to practice being decisive, but like anything else, practice will hone your decision-making skills. So, put a time deadline on making your decision. Start small ... you’re at a restaurant and can’t decide what to order? Give yourself a time deadline, say 1 minute, to decide what to order and stick to it. Once you get the hang of making small decisions, move on to the bigger ones.

When you take action it shows a desire to move forward, but by putting off making choices because you fear failure, nothing changes and you are caught in limbo, and that is possibly the worst decision yet!

Crystals for Indecision

The following crystals can also help you get through some tough decision-making.

Amethyst works well by enhancing intuition and clear thinking.

Azurite helps you achieve a clear perspective on the situation.

Lepidolite eases stress and negative emotions and clears the mind allowing you to make decisions without distraction.

Lapis Lazuli will help you through feelings of despair and allow you to take control of your life by getting rid of the blocks in your way. It allows you to focus and concentrate on what you need and provides insight on how to achieve it.

Carnelian boosts your energy, especially if you’ve been procrastinating and avoiding making a decision because it may upset someone.

Hematite will ground you to allow you to make a decision based on logic and reason

Moonstone helps you connect to your higher self and is great to use if you’re wanting to seek spiritual guidance on making your decision. It also urges you to trust the information you receive intuitively.

Rose quartz is the go-to stone that urges you to love yourself. Don’t make decisions about your own life to please someone else. This stone boosts your self-empowerment and tells you to do what is right for you.

Rutilated Quartz will help you gain special insight into a problem and access higher spiritual guidance. It also dispels negative influences that may hamper your ability to make a decision.

Fluorite enhances your intuition and paves the way for you to trust you gut. It helps you look at a situation objectively. It also eases stress and removes negativity.

Ask an angel

Last, but by no means least, you can call on Archangel Uriel for guidance. Uriel helps us connect with our true selves and find our life purpose. He brings guidance, inspiration and encouragement to stay motivated to take action. Once you ask Uriel for help, pay close attention to the intuitive messages or gut feelings you receive which are sure signs that he is working with you. Ask Uriel for inspiration to deal with the decision you’re wrestling with and ask for clear guidance and messages that you can easily recognise and understand.

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