When we grieve ...
Grief is said to be one of life’s most brutal experiences. It visits all of us one way or another, ripping out our hearts and leaving us heartbroken and empty inside. This week, we saw our fair share of clients needing healing grief support.
Grief is described as how we respond to losing someone or something in our lives to which we have a strong emotional attachment. It sounds so clinical. It says nothing of the heartbreak and emptiness we experience when we have lost someone or something that filled our lives.
A client described it as feeling as though her heart had been ripped out of her chest. It makes sense because the heart chakra sits in the centre of your chest and is the emotional centre of your energy system. It is here that past hurts, traumas and emotions can become stuck. Many times, the passing of a loved one can stir up these emotions of the past making it necessary to clear away the stuck energy thereby enabling you to process not only the latest hurt, but any old repressed and unresolved grief you may not even realise you’ve been holding onto.
During a grief support Reiki healing, special attention is given to the heart chakra and grounding the client which helps stabilise them and supports them in letting go and releasing the heavy emotions and trauma associated with grief.
For another client, mourning the loss of a beloved pet stirred up past emotional grief that included the loss of her mother, a previous pet, a miscarriage and the breakdown of her marriage. All this emotional baggage was still stuck in her energy system waiting to be processed and released. The gentle Reiki energy helped release this old trauma, and with the added support of healing crystals, she was able to deal with the emotions that she had suppressed and move on through the grieving process.
A message from the angels
Drawing on the Archangel Power Tarot cards for a message for our clients working through the grief process, the following message was received:
"There is no need to be alone! There are people around you from whom you would gain great strength and support. Archangel Sandalphon can help you find the meaning you're seeking in your life. If you're taking a traditional approach to the challenge you are currently facing, and things don't seem to be moving forward, then it might be time to try a different approach. Don't resist the change you are experiencing now, instead gain new insights."
Grief is also a time when we question our spirituality and seek answers through prayer. Archangel Sandalphon is the angel you can call upon to help you enrich your inner world. He is also known for delivering prayers from earth to heaven, so call upon him to help when you feel your prayers need an extra boost.
Crystal energy for support & comfort
Grieving is generally associated with the death of a loved one – said to be the most intense type of grief – but any sort of loss can stir up feelings of grief. Some of these include:
· Death of a pet
· Loss of health
· Losing a job
· Losing your financial security
· Miscarriage
· Retirement
· Divorce or the end of a relationship
· Serious illness in a loved one
· Selling the family home
The additional use of crystals can help you release the pain and shock that often accompanies grief. Their gentle energies also provide loving support while you work through the grieving process.
Some of my go-to stones to use for clients who are experiencing grief include:
Amethyst – dispels feelings of anxiety and fear and sooths grief. It will help you to adjust to the loss you’ve suffered by absorbing the pain and grief. This is my go-to stone to use during grief healing. It offers protection from negative energy which is often attracted by strong feelings of hopelessness. Amethyst is known to calm and soothe the mind and provides emotional comfort.
Apache tear – this form of obsidian absorbs negative feelings and transmutes them into positive vibes, allowing you to grieve in a safe space. It promotes emotional healing and will guide you through this challenging time. It also helps release stuck emotions. It is often used for clients who experience a sense of guilt after the loss of a loved one as it encourages them to forgive themselves.
Black Onyx – is a great stone for protecting you from negative energies and thoughts. Not only does it relieve emotional stress, but it also renews your confidence in moving on with the next chapter of your life. It is often used for past-life regression, and as such, helps heal old injuries and trauma.
Chrysocolla – known to be a stone that encourages peace and calm; it provides comfort in times of stress. This stone is able to draw negative energy from the heart chakra.
Chrysoprase – works with the sacral and heart chakra. This stone is often used when someone is dealing with the emotional trauma caused by betrayal and the end of a relationship. This stone helps restore emotional balance and encourages you to forgive and start the healing process. It is also known to help when dealing with childhood traumas and aids in releasing emotional hurts so that you can move on.
Citrine – this honey/yellow stone has an uplifting energy that is necessary when you are ready to move on. Once you have worked through your grief, this stone will help bring balance to the solar plexus and boost your energy. It is also known to bring luck and boost confidence. It is the stone to use when overcoming work or financial trauma.
Indicolite Quartz – will help release stuck emotions and encourages you to vocalise them. It offers comfort and its message is that you never mourn alone. This stone will help access spirit guides who are there to assist you through this difficult time. It is said that Indicolite Quartz teaches us that death occurs at exactly the right time for a soul and that it has returned home having accomplished what it set out to do.
Lepidolite – a stone of transition and peace that works with the third eye, crown, throat and heart chakras. Known to contain lithium which is used to treat mental health, the energy of this stone will help balance mood swings, anxiety, depression and fear as it provides a calming influence. A piece under your pillow is said to provide a restful night’s sleep.
Pink calcite – a stone for the heart and crown chakra, the energy from this stone helps you come to terms with your loss and work through feelings of grief. It urges you to take time to process your grief and to nurture yourself with kindness. This stone will also help release previous emotional trauma and ease feelings of anger, fear and grief allowing a calmer, hopeful energy to fill the space.
Rose Quartz – is said to be the stone of forgiveness and love; it is known as the heart healer. It is a comfort stone and the go-to when dealing with a broken heart. It helps you release feelings of hurt, while is offers support and comfort.
Smokey Quartz – known as the stone of co-operation, it is mostly used for its grounding ability as it works to realign your emotions. There are a number of negative feelings associated with grief and this stone acts as a protective barrier to this negativity.
It is important to note that the healing energies of these crystals will not take your grief away, but can be used to support and comfort you as you deal with your grief.
An angel at your side
Besides the comfort and support gained from crystals, we are also able to call on the angels to help support us through the grieving process. Some of the Archangels recommended for grief support include:
Archangel Azrael - offers comfort through the grieving process and will help you release feelings of guilt and anger. (Resonates with yellow calcite or citrine.)
Archangel Chamuel - known as the Angel of peace and comfort can also be called upon to resolve any friction or arguments that may arise as a result of loss. (Resonates with green fluorite, chrysoprase, red jasper and pink tourmaline.)
Archangel Raphael - the Angel of healing is particularly helpful where a loss has caused medical concerns or emotional trauma. (Resonates with malachite or emerald.)
Archangel Gabriel - brings comfort and peace as you grieve. (Resonates with moonstone, citrine and selenite.)
Archangel Michael - will give you the courage needed to accept change. (Resonates with blue kyanite or sugilite.)
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